Why we put others on a pedestal
Putting people on a pedestal often happens without you noticing it. When you meet someone new or feel a strong connection, their positive qualities can stand out so strongly that everything else fades into the background.
Because of this, you may begin to see them as “perfect” or somehow above you.
The illusion of perfection
In this phase, it can feel as if the other person has no flaws. However, this is not because they are perfect, but because you are seeing them through your own projection.
At the same time, this can happen with friends, partners, or even spiritual teachers. You may place them on a pedestal, believing they have something you do not.
Yet, this belief often creates distance rather than true connection.
What happens when the illusion fades
Over time, reality naturally shows itself. Everyone has flaws, challenges, and human moments.
When this becomes visible, you may feel disappointed, confused, or even hurt. However, this does not mean the other person has changed—it means your perception is shifting.
As a result, you begin to see them more clearly, beyond the image you created.
Returning to balance and equality
True connection can only exist when both people are seen as they are. Not above, not below, but equal.
When you stop placing someone on a pedestal, you also stop placing yourself beneath them. Because of this, you reclaim your own power and sense of worth.
You begin to recognize that everyone carries both human and deeper qualities, including yourself.
A gentle reminder
No one is above you.
No one is below you.
We are all walking the same path in different ways.
And in seeing this, real connection becomes possible.
With love,
Gulschen